A Few of My Favorite Fall Things






 Enjoy Your Beautiful Fall Days!



Are Cell Phones Ruining Your Love Life?

Are our “communication devices” helping single love
seekers connect? Or are they getting in our way?

Well….the answer is….Both. Tips here on how to use ‘em or
lose ‘em in dating.

Lots of comments in my email box this weekend about how these handy and
helpful devices are actually keeping men and women from communicating and
connecting with each other. Puzzling, isn’t it? Examples…..

Candice got bent out of shape because Jonathan texted her when she would have
preferred to hear his voice. She thinks texting is lame and rude….

Sam was really jazzed to meet Caroline and called her to ask her out for
dinner and instead of reaching her or a recording of her sweet, welcoming voice
he got the “voice mail has not been set up” roadblock.

Traffic was keeping Mark from being his typically punctual self for Friday’s
first date with Jennifer. Wisely, he had her cell number with him, but when he
called it to let her know he’d be late the call went to voice mail (the darn
Crackberry didn’t ring for some reason) and she sat there at the cafe for 30
minutes….stewing….getting more anxious by the moment. She didn’t think to check
her messages.

I sent Gloria out on a flirting expedition on Saturday morning to practice
smiling and holding eye contact with the adorable men in her neighborhood and
she was defeated by the competition — all the cute boys’ eyes were locked in on
their iphones and she couldn’t catch attention from….anyone.

Catherine was thoroughly excited about her second date with Mike and it was
beautifully orchestrated — the perfect al fresco dining experience overlooking
the yachts in Marina Del Rey. She won’t get a third date. Wanna know why? She
had her iphone on the table all evening and every time it buzzed she couldn’t
resist; she had to check it. It buzzed…a lot… The impression Mike took away?
She’s not really interested in him. Her email box is more important to her than
finding a meaningful relationship with a man — a man who is right there with
her, courting her, ready and eager to connect with her. She missed her chance to
develop relationship with this man, who is…was….a really fitting and motivated
suitor. Does this make your friendly neighborhood matchmaker a little bit sad?
Yeah….it really does.

The worst part is, folks, she IS interested in him and she’s just fallen into
the trap that our communication devices have become for us.

Tips for how to keep your cell phone from ruining your love

Turn it off. Completely. When you are on a date, turn the darned thing off
altogether. Got kids? Got work challenges? Me too. Check in with those pesky
interruptors just before your date (or any important appointment) to make sure
they’re OK and let them know you’ll be out of touch for an hour or so. Create
these healthy boundaries with the special people in your life. 98% of these
oh-so-teasing calls, texts, and emails are not in any way urgent. Let them
go…..deal with them later….. Give your date the present of your presence. Works
like magic. I promise.

Learn how to use your phone. Ask any teenager to help you figure out how to
set up you voice mail, check messages, retrieve your messages, send and receive
texts….if we’re going to have one of these “magical” devices we have a
responsibility (to ourselves and to the lovely people in our lives) to learn how
to use it.

Is your NAME in your voice mail greeting? Is it your voice speaking? It
should be. Otherwise how will Jack know he’s left his message with the right
Jill? Have you listened to your own voice mail greeting lately? Do you sound
cold or annoyed? I surely hope not!

Most importantly, cut each other some slack. Accept the reality that each of
us has our preferred methods of giving and receiving communication. Practice
being flexible and understanding with each other. Let people know what works for
you. Do you like text messages? Do you need to hear a real live voice? If the
buzzing cell phone on the dinner table is bugging you, can you find a way to
communicate what you need and want, instead of just getting grumpy about it?

Carol did it this way — After she lost Bruce’s attention to his iPhone
several times during the first 10 minutes of their date, she playfully swatted
it (like a fly) and he responded instantly by turning the silly thing off. Smart
move, Bruce! The rest of the date went really well and Bruce and Carol will be
meeting again for dinner…tonight…at her place. YAY! Humanity wins over
machinery. I love it.

Got tips to share about how we can keep our cell phones from running and
ruining our lives? Send them on to me. Julie@CupidsCoach.com

I consider myself lucky, I wasn’t fed to the Gators

I’ve just returned from spending a few days in Florida.  I stayed at the  The Gaylord Palms ….I know…I know!     I laughed at the name too!

While checking in I was told to make sure to keep the key card away from my cell phone, because it might de-activate the card.


So I carefully placed my key card into a pocket inside my purse.


The next day I decided to spend some time by the pool.

When I went back to my room, I discovered my key card didn’t work…Humm…

So I went back to the lobby and told them what had happened,

they were very polite and made me a new card.  They told me if it ever happened again to pick up one of the house phones and someone would help me,

I didn’t need to go all the way to the lobby.


Back to my room I go to try once again.

Guess what?   My new key still didn’t work!!

So now I had to find a house phone and call in my problem.

Once again they were very polite and told me to wait in front of my room and someone would come to help me.

I waited about 10 to 15 minutes for someone to come, and then I heard the sound of something big walking down the hallway.

This guy was huge…he was like a walking wall…6..foot high…5 feet wide..

and of course a shaved head.

(what kind of security dude would he be without a shaved head?)

( PS..he was much bigger than the above picture)


First thing he asks for is my key and some I.D.

He tries the key, and of course it doesn’t work.

(I may be blond…but I know how to use a key card!)

Next he calls the front desk to see if I’m registered.

Yes…I’am…but this guy wants more proof.

He asks me to tell him about 3 items that are in the room.  WHAT???

So I mention…

#1…I have 2 pieces of grey luggage.

#2…I have a large beige purse.

#3…The bedspread has pictures of monkeys playing instruments.

Is it just me,

or does the idea of monkeys dressed in clothes freak anyone else out?

It just seems so wrong to me on so many levels!

(what is that monkey to the left doing, and why is his hand on the other monkey?)

What happens at the Gaylord Palms, stays at the Gaylord Palms?



The whole time that I’m being questioned by the security dude, he is blocking the door so I can’t look in.

After I name my 3 items he goes into the room to check out my answers.

He comes back and asks me if I have a tooth brush  ???

Yes, as a matter of fact I have 2 pink toothbrushes.

He goes back into the room to make sure I wasn’t telling him a lie.

He comes back and lets me in my room.

All he said was…

“Someone will bring you 2 new keys and will slide them under the door.”


I must look like someone that can’t be trusted.


Boo!  I’m so scary!

I guess I should consider myself lucky, I wasn’t fed to the alligators.

See ya later…Wally Gator!




From Craigslist with love?

Do you love Craigslist, and swear it is the best thing ever?

I think Craigslist is a joke, and have had nothing but weird spammer people contact me.

Let me back up and explain some of my experiences with The Craig.

This past year I have been in the process of cleaning and remodeleing my house, and  then listing some of my no longer wanted or needed items on Craiglist.

Things like.

9ft pool table

Brass bed


While the ad was running I had some strange e-mails inquiring about the items.


Thanks for mailing back,i am an Oceanographer and i am buying this for Dad, i am at sea right now, I can only pay through PayPal at the moment as i don’t have access to my bank account online,but i have it attached to my PayPal account, and this is why i insisted on using PayPal to pay,all i will need is your PayPal email address to make the payments,and if you don’t have a paypal account yet,its pretty easy to set one up at www.paypal.com,i will be expecting your email.I have a pick up agent that will come for the pick up after payments.I will like to have communicate and discuss this via Phone but i am 95% Deaf and i do use hearing piece so that was why i have prefer to communicate more through Mail …So kindly get back to asap…i need to see more photos also and i will like to know the last asking price.

(Sorry,,,sounds like a scammer to me!)

This is how the scammers work on craigs list…They contact you with a question…like is your ______(fill in the blank still for sale?)  or they contact you with an another question.. but they leave out one of the numbers of a phone number they want you to call…..so you e-mail them back to answer their question…once you do they have your personal e-mail address.  Then the scamming e-mails begin.

This is One of the most outrageous e-mail to come out of something I tried to sell on Craigslist.


Is your merchandise still attainable? Umm…this might be  off topic but you sound interesting in your posting. Do you want to get coffee sometimes? I promise I’m not a weirdo, just feeling lonely. If you’re interested, meet me on my exclusive dating profile (it’s like facebook for adults), there’s no cost to sign up! My pics and my  phone # are all on there so get in touch with me. There are too many scammers on here so if you’re  real call me and maybe we can meet to become friends and maybe more? You never know! OK, I won’t bother you again! You’ll be amazed to see who I am! 🙂


Trying to get a date this way??

OMG! at least this one gave me a good laugh!






Octoberfest 2011

Lets face it

Octoberfest is a great excuse for eating and drinking!

Homemade Gingerbread cookies


Homemade Pretzels


Cheese and crackers




Was it a brat or a cheddar wurtz?


German wine to wash down the food


Brat, Sauerkraut, German Potato salad, German Goulash


Fraulein Stee, Fraulein Vivian, Frau April and Frau Janice


The reason for the Octoberfest party..Chad's Birthday!

A good time was had by all.

We laughted

We drank

And we ate too much!


Auf Wiedersehen!




Me ? a Model… For White House / Black Market

Anyone who knows me….knows about my obsession with the  White House / Black Market clothing line.  Last year I was asked to model in one of their fashion shows.  Me?  You want me to model your clothes?  And from what you will see in the following videos, (click on the links) it proves I’m not a model.  {just a  dork}

Now for a little diversion,,, a Sneak Peek into My Closet,,,this is What I purchased This Week

Leopard skirt

Openweave dolman & Mocha corduroy pants

Double rectangle necklace

Leopard blouse

Circle pendant

long bauble necklace

faux fur cardigan

You had me at Hello!

Clothes I tried on and now lust for.

Taffeta dress

Will somebody please!

Give me an excuse to buy this gorgeous dress.

Menswear flounce dress

The Perfect work to dinner dress.

Ruffled wrap coat

Tre`Chic with a pair of black leather knee high boots.

Plum corduroy Jacket

Paired with the matching pants,,,a made in Heaven holiday Outfit.

Leather ankle boots

These boots work with Everything,,Nuff said!

X’s & Oooh’s


Window Shopping,,, Parisian Style

Ahh!,,,Paris,,, The most magical city in the world

   The window shopping here is off the charts.

 The Parisian have a style that is all their own.

You see it as you stroll the streets and gaze into the awe inspiring shops.

I’m going to be quiet now

 and let you gaze into the windows of a few gorgeous shops.

Look very carefully into the pictures.

The reflections tell a story 







Tell me….What did you see?



The Real Housewives of___fill in the blank saga continues??

   I live in Southern California  and have been a fan of the Bravo show the Real Housewives of Orange County from the very first season. 

  I was thrilled when more and more Real Housewives Cities Joined in the Fun,  Drama, and Craziness that seemed to unfold on the shows.

At first I viewed the shows the way that any good anthropologist would. 

   By examining and analyzing the way that different cultures

  grow, develop and interact with each other.

  Then reporting on what you have learned.

A few Good qualities that a anthropologist should  possess are…

1.  Is to be inquisitive about life and society. 

 2. Have the patience to watch how humans behave.

 3.  And to be non-judgemental.

No problem!

  I can do all of those things,

 but the being non-judgemental kind of takes all the fun out of it.

   I mean really…

 Who among us doesn’t like to critique?

But now with the suicide of Russell Armstrong, (Beverly Hills Housewives)  the whole world seems to be critiquing the Bravo Franchise Future.


I came across a poll today.

Is the Real Housewives show to blame for Russells suicide?

 52% say yes 48% say no

Do the producers have a moral responsibility to the cast?

  71% say yes..24% say no

Should Bravo cancel the show?

  48% say yes…52% say no

Does reality t.v. ruin relationships?

  85% yes…12% say no

Would you go on the Real housewives for $50,000?

  33% say yes..67% say no

Would you go on the show for a million dollars?

  69% say yes…31% say no

The past few months I have heard stories of how Teresa Giudice (New Jersey Housewives) and her husband Joe only made a combined income of $79,000 a year when the show first started.  And then filled for bankruptcy for 11 Million dollars a few years later…

How does this happen?


There are never ending stories on the internet about Bankruptcy, Divorce,  Foreclosure, and Death involving the Real Housevives shows. 

 Questions of

Is there a curse on anyone who dares be in the public spotlight by being on a reality T.V. Show.

I don’t know about a curse, but there sure seems to be a plague of Bankruptcy and Divorce with the Real Housewives…



Sonja Morgan ….. New York 

Alexis Bellino…..  Orange County


Teresa Guidice…  New Jersey

    Lisa Wu Hartwell …. Atlanta

Michaele Salahi ….. Washington D.C.


Lynn Cartin …. Orange County



Vicki Gunvalson…Orange County


Countess Luann de Lessep….New York


Tamra Barney…Orange Country 

Camille Grammer….Beverly Hills


Sheree Whitfield…Atlanta


Nene Leakes…Atlanta


Lisa Wu Hartwell…Atlanta


Jeanna Keough…Orange County


Cat Ommanney…Washington D.C.


 And Honorable mention for being the next to  divorce?


Alexis Bellino…Orange County

Ramona Singer…New York

Teresa Giudice…New Jersey

Lynn Cartin…Orange County

Michaele Salahi…DC


What at first appeared to be a entertaining little show

 (that I admit I’m addicted to)

 about the lives of the rich and famous

 has turned into a bitch fest

 of people doing nothing more than trying to out do each other

by either suddenly becoming

 writers of tell all books

  singers recording really terrible music

designers hocking crappy clothes, jewelry, accessories

 wine or other alcoholic drinks

 they have put their name on. 

  WE watch them  spending all the money they have

 or don’t have on a lifestyle

 that is suppose to make us envious? 


I guess this formula works pretty well.   Just look at the top two  reality T.V. shows…

 Jersey shore

  A group of 20 somethings  that have been thrown together.  We watch them doing nothing more than hooking up…. drinking and looking for trouble.

Keeping up with the Kardashian’s

A dysfuntional family that loves to

 fight.. whine .. shop

and  frequent expensive restaurants and clubs 

while  one upping each other to hog the spotlight.


I don’t know about you…but I’m getting really sick of reality T.V.

   I’m tired of them trying to convince me I should lust for a life like this.  

Is this all just a Evil plan by the T.V Gods?

What do you think?

I’m sorry if I have upset anyone with this post

But think about it…

 is it really reality T.V when it’s scripted?

And Is watching a train wreck….Entertainment?

Makes me think about Captain Ron

It was a beautiful day to go sailing!

We set sail out of Channel island Harbor.

I want to learn how to Paddle Board…

How Cute is this couple with their paddle boarding doggie!

  I love the sun faded color of this house. 

 You would never guess that this beach is in Southern California.

 It reminds me a litle of the East Coast .

 Out at sea.

Sailing is a lot of work!


So, I’m just going to sit here and look cute…


Hey!…..If it’s good enough for Captain Dan, it’s good enough for me!

When you sail during the week,  you own the Ocean!

Our two Hour cruise is coming to an end..

Back towards the harbor we go..

There’s a show off in every crowd..

Back at the dock….and so glad that I didn’t get sea sick!

What is it about birds…that makes me think about Alfred Hitchcock?




Mr. Hitchcock

The Rednecks That Live Next Store

OMG!  I have new neighbors…… I think they are going to turn out to be the neighbors from Hell… 


Remember the movie    A Christmas Story?    And the neighbors… The Bumpasse’s with all their hounds running around making noise and getting into everything…My new neighbors are just like the Bumpass’es….only replace the hounds with kids…

The  Bumpasse’s moved into the neighbor hood the beginning of the summer, while I was vacationing in Europe…I was depressed as it was having to end such a great time…but then to come home and discover what has moved in next store…well….all I could do was..let out a big sigh!

  My daughter and her husbands bedroom is on the side of the house that faces the Bumpasse’s house.   My bedroom  (thank god) is on the other side of the house so I haven’t had to listen to them all night long while trying to sleep…

So…let me tell you a few of things that the Bumpasse’s have been up too.

The first weekend they move in I come home to find the Bumpass daughters on my front lawn selling lemonade…while at first I thought it was kinda cute,  it brought back memories of my kids selling kool-aid in the front yard…one big difference though…my kids didn’t scream at the top of their lungs….LEMON-ADE!!!     wait…scream… is putting it nicely….shrieking at the top of their lungs is more like it….like the sound of fingernails scratching on a chalkboard shrieking…. the youngest Bumpass daughter was running around on my front lawn…Shreiking   LEMONADE !  they yelled LEMONADE  at every person walking by…or any car driving by…. 

 And let me till you….Bumpass Fest went on for hours….

Then finally it was quiet once again..I went out to check my front yard…. they had packed up most of the lemonade stand….but they left their chairs in my front yard…I thought that was kind of odd till I took a look at their front yard…..It was full of furniture…couches…chairs…tables and tons of boxes…so my guess … they didn’t even miss what they had left behind.

Their yard still looked like that the next day…and they still hadn’t picked up what they left in my front yard…so the chairs were tossed  into the pile of stuff on their front yard..

My daughter has told me stories about how the Wife/Mother screams all night long at the husband…she even wakes up the kids at 2 in the morning screaming and telling them what a horrible father they have…the funny thing is…you never hear a word from the Husband/Father.??

This family never talks to each other…they scream every word!

Last night the daughters were digging in my trash…and pulled out a bunch of card board boxes that I had neatly put in piles to be re -cycled…the mother yelled at them to put them back…they did…but now the boxes were all over the street…I had to once again go stack the boxes in neat piles..

 Now… I know what you must be thinking….why is she being so annal about a few boxes….it wasn’t just a few boxes…it was about 20 boxes of all sizes…some of them big enough to put a washing machine or wide screen t.v in…so I was a little pissed off when I had to clean up the boxes….So….not only are they noisy neighbors they are trash pickers too!

So whats your guess…The neighbors from hell?… noisy Rednecks?..White Trash?….I think I will just refer to them as the Bumpasse’s….it seems to be a perfect descript

I believe in seeing the bright side of everything….so the good news is….I will have more to blog about?

P.S.  all is quiet on the Bumpass front today…..the Bumpasse’s have a boat. and I don’t see it in the driveway today…so that means they are wreaking havoc on a lake somewhere and terrorizing someone else today!        *Evil laugh*  tee hehe